So I was sitting here after work thinking about how we both met each other’s families. One thing that stood out to me were the differences between Western culture and Korean culture when it comes to meeting the parents.
In the West, it is pretty common to bring home a girlfriend/boyfriend to the house even if you are casually dating. Now, I was raised a bit differently so I didn’t fit this mold, but many of my friends did. I pretty much knew that any girl I brought back home to meet my mom meant that I was pretty serious so it was pretty strange to see some of my friends do it differently.
In Korea it’s pretty much the same as I was raised so it wasn’t really a surprise when I didn’t meet Hyo’s mom until after about 6 months of dating (it was before I had to go back to the states for 3 months).
Meeting Hyo’s Fam
As I said above, we had been dating for about 6 months before I met her mom. It was a pretty low key meeting. It was a cold December day, but we ended up eating some Samgyeopsal (yes!) and then going to a park in Incheon. I met her mom, sister, and her sister’s boyfriend. I was totally nervous especially when I was left with her mom at the table all alone for several minutes.
But I mustered what little Korean I knew and was able to have a broken conversation haha. But she was very cool and accepting of our relationship from the start. I often hang out with Hyo’s mom and sister and her mom is always looking out for me by sending me food and always asking Hyo if I’m lonely because I live alone. In Korea, you usually wait a little longer to meet the dad, so that will probably happen this year.
Now I’ve said this in another post, but meeting Hyo’s mom also showed me where she got a lot of the things in personality that I admire. Hyo is short and cute (looks harmless haha :p), but definitely not a pushover and is strong, diligent, and independent.
Out with Hyo’s fam at the beach last year.
Meeting My Fam
Earlier this year, we took a trip back to my hometown of Detroit so she could finally meet my fam. We had been dating about a year and half by that point so it was about time she got to see some of my culture and where I get some of my personality quirks from.
It was a pretty interesting trip for her (maybe she can write about it later :p). We had already visited Hawaii, but this was her first trip to the continental states. Detroit was quite a culture shock as you can imagine. Detroit being one of the more dangerous cities and going through some hard times right now. But she enjoyed it as I was happy to show her where I went to school, my favorite places, restaurants etc.
My mom was very accepting and turned my room into a mini hotel for Hyo to make her feel completely comfortable. I think they both have some similarities in their personalities and despite the slight language barrier, they get along great. Hyo cooked 전 (Jeon), a type of Korean pancake, and my mom was raving about it for days. Hyo also met my dad which was hilarious because my dad is taller than me and Hyo seemed like she needed a ladder when she met him.
Hyo with my mom
Hyo with my dad.
We also took a trip to west Virginia to see my grandma, aunt, and cousins. They all loved her and it was a great time. They really made her feel at home. To finish our trip, we took a visit to NYC and met up with some friends there as well.
So as you can see, any relationship will have its challenges, and maybe more so with different cultures (language barrier sometimes), but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I mean, if you were to go back in time and tell 18 year old Dom that he would be living in Korea, bringing his Korean girlfriend to meet his family in Detroit, I would’ve laughed in your face and said you were high. But that’s life…and it brings many surprises along the way. Cheers.
So as promised, we will host a little giveaway this week just to say thanks for the support from everyone so far, to have some fun, and to celebrate 200 likes on Facebook. We would also just like to interact with everyone a bit more.
So what are we giving away?
We found these cool little blackboards (with pen included) that you can write memos for yourself on.
I’m horrible at picking out gifts, so you can thank Hyo for finding these. So what do you need to do to enter? Pretty simple:
– Leave a comment below answering this question:
“What are 5 things you cannot live without?”
– You get (1) extra entry if you share the contest on Facebook or Twitter
– We (Dom and Hyo) can only ship the prize to the US and South Korea
– We will choose 3 winners randomly (pick from a bag) and will record it!
– Giveaway will end on Saturday, May 4th at 6 P.M.
– Winners will be announced on Sunday in a post after the giveaway ends
That’s it! We look forward to the comments and answers. Good luck.
이미 공지해드렸다시피 Dom & Hyo에 대한 여러분의 관심에 감사하는 의미로 작은 상품이벤트를 하려고 해요. 이번 이벤트를 통해 저희는 여러분 모두와 조금 더 많은 이야기를 공유하고 싶어요.
저희가 뭘 준비했는지 궁금하시죠?
저희는 메모를 적어 놓을 수 있는 작지만 유용한 칠판과 펜을 준비했어요. 전(Dom) 선물 잘 못 고르는 편이라 이번엔 Hyo가 골랐어요. (Hyo: 마음에 드시길 바래요 XD)
그럼 규칙을 알아볼까요? 간단해요.:
– 아래의 질문에 답변을 달아주세요.:
“나는 이 다섯가지가 없으면 살 수 없다.” 그 다섯가지의 것들이 무엇인지 써주세요.
– 페이스북이나 트위터에 Dom & Hyo 웹툰을 공유해주시면 이벤트에 당첨될 확률이 2배 높아집니다.
– 안타깝게도 저희는 미국과 한국으로만 상품을 보내드릴 수 있어요.
– 무작위로(제비뽑기의 형식) 세 명의 우승자가 결정되고 그 과정을 녹화해서 보여드릴게요.
So we are both trying to practice our languages more now. Her with English and me with Korean. My Korean is much worse than her English so we try to practice a lot…and yes i hate using full sentences with her because she knows what i’m talking about already! haha. But it is good practice.
I also like to laugh and not use full sentences on purpose just to see the above reaction. Too cute haha. She also likes to mix Korean and English sometimes…like above it says “full sentence 해야지” where the last part is “should do” in Korean. This has rubbed off on me and I even did it back home when I talked to my mom and she was confused as ever.
My Korean would be much better if I used my free time better. I do have a lot of side projects I like to work on, but I have a lot of extra time at school, so there is really no excuse for not studying more. Getting better though. I’m finally about to have some basic conversations with my coworkers at school now. Let’s see where i am by the end of the year. I have a good teacher on my side :p
This happens every time we are out together. I simply don’t notice my dirty glasses or I simply don’t care. I do clean them, but only after awhile. I’m sure this looks so strange when I’m talking to people and my glasses are so dirty. But she is really good at looking out for me in this situation haha.