When learning a language, swearing words are an interesting thing. It’s different because you didn’t grow up with the stigma of the word being bad, so it doesn’t sound “bad” to you. My students demonstrate this daily. They think all English swearing words are just like regular words and really don’t know the impact of what they are saying sometimes. I usually have to correct them and tell them exactly why they can’t just drop f-bombs all over the place if they lose a game in class.
Of the Korean swear words I’ve learned, I’ve learned most of them from hearing my students say them (they think I can’t understand), but occasionally I’ll ask Hyo what a word is, but she won’t tell me at first haha. I just would like to know just in case my students think they can still get away with bad language even in Korean (and just for fun admittedly haha).
With the nicknames, I already made a comic about that, and she has infinite names for me, but I guess i’m just not as creative in this area.
Anyways, until next time! Remember there are 6 days left for the giveaway…check yesterday’s post 🙂
So as promised, we will host a little giveaway this week just to say thanks for the support from everyone so far, to have some fun, and to celebrate 200 likes on Facebook. We would also just like to interact with everyone a bit more.
So what are we giving away?
We found these cool little blackboards (with pen included) that you can write memos for yourself on.
I’m horrible at picking out gifts, so you can thank Hyo for finding these. So what do you need to do to enter? Pretty simple:
– Leave a comment below answering this question:
“What are 5 things you cannot live without?”
– You get (1) extra entry if you share the contest on Facebook or Twitter
– We (Dom and Hyo) can only ship the prize to the US and South Korea
– We will choose 3 winners randomly (pick from a bag) and will record it!
– Giveaway will end on Saturday, May 4th at 6 P.M.
– Winners will be announced on Sunday in a post after the giveaway ends
That’s it! We look forward to the comments and answers. Good luck.
이미 공지해드렸다시피 Dom & Hyo에 대한 여러분의 관심에 감사하는 의미로 작은 상품이벤트를 하려고 해요. 이번 이벤트를 통해 저희는 여러분 모두와 조금 더 많은 이야기를 공유하고 싶어요.
저희가 뭘 준비했는지 궁금하시죠?
저희는 메모를 적어 놓을 수 있는 작지만 유용한 칠판과 펜을 준비했어요. 전(Dom) 선물 잘 못 고르는 편이라 이번엔 Hyo가 골랐어요. (Hyo: 마음에 드시길 바래요 XD)
그럼 규칙을 알아볼까요? 간단해요.:
– 아래의 질문에 답변을 달아주세요.:
“나는 이 다섯가지가 없으면 살 수 없다.” 그 다섯가지의 것들이 무엇인지 써주세요.
– 페이스북이나 트위터에 Dom & Hyo 웹툰을 공유해주시면 이벤트에 당첨될 확률이 2배 높아집니다.
– 안타깝게도 저희는 미국과 한국으로만 상품을 보내드릴 수 있어요.
– 무작위로(제비뽑기의 형식) 세 명의 우승자가 결정되고 그 과정을 녹화해서 보여드릴게요.
So we are both trying to practice our languages more now. Her with English and me with Korean. My Korean is much worse than her English so we try to practice a lot…and yes i hate using full sentences with her because she knows what i’m talking about already! haha. But it is good practice.
I also like to laugh and not use full sentences on purpose just to see the above reaction. Too cute haha. She also likes to mix Korean and English sometimes…like above it says “full sentence 해야지” where the last part is “should do” in Korean. This has rubbed off on me and I even did it back home when I talked to my mom and she was confused as ever.
My Korean would be much better if I used my free time better. I do have a lot of side projects I like to work on, but I have a lot of extra time at school, so there is really no excuse for not studying more. Getting better though. I’m finally about to have some basic conversations with my coworkers at school now. Let’s see where i am by the end of the year. I have a good teacher on my side :p
This happens every time we are out together. I simply don’t notice my dirty glasses or I simply don’t care. I do clean them, but only after awhile. I’m sure this looks so strange when I’m talking to people and my glasses are so dirty. But she is really good at looking out for me in this situation haha.
I remember when Hyo first introduced me to 불닭 (bul dak). I wrote about this dish briefly in another post, but didn’t really talk about it. She has introduced me to a lot of new Korean foods that I never tried my previous 2 years in Korea.
Going to the Bul Dak spot near Dongam Station in Incheon was really a spur of the moment thing. We have a favorite Galbi place we like to go to near there, but decided to look for something different. She suggested Bul Dak. After she explained that it literally meant “fire chicken” and was very spicy, I was a little weary, but I was up for it and wanted to try something new.
We got there and she ordered the dish with cheese and some beer. After it came out, it smelled very good and I couldn’t wait to dig in.
I grabbed a piece, ate it, and waited. It tasted good upon the first bite and after swallowing the chicken…then it hit me like a wave of fire. Now considering my time in Korea, I had gotten pretty used to spicy food. I usually add MORE pepper paste to my bibimbap….but this was ridiculous. I quickly grabbed the water and drank a whole glass…then I grabbed some of the beer.
After a minute or two, I started to dig in again, and although it got easier and easier as the night went on, I was sweating and drinking water and beer like crazy….but it was delicious. We went to the same restaurant a second time later on, and she asked to tone down the spiciness for me, and it was better. It is now one of my favorite dishes and I crave it many times though I don’t eat it often because my stomach usually feels bad the next day and I’m going to the bathroom like crazy.. (TMI? haha).
So when it comes to dating someone from another culture, there are several things I think that are important to do, in order for you to help understand each other and lessen misunderstandings between you two. Relationships already by nature will have their share of miscommunications and misunderstandings, but maybe even more so when two people come together from two different countries and cultures.
First of all, I feel very lucky to have met Hyo. I mean, I’m a pretty introverted guy who doesn’t talk much when first meeting people, but luckily, I wanted help with learning Korean, and was able to meet her. Hyo is also introverted which means we mesh pretty well and can understand each other better most of the time.
So here are some things that I felt have been important for us to do:
1. Learn the other’s language.
This might seem obvious, but it really is something that just makes sense. It shows that you take an interest in the other person’s culture, and later down the line, it can ease communication problems. My Korean is far from being fluent, but slowly but surely I am picking up phrases she says and my vocabulary grows daily. I’ve been a little tired lately so studying has been at a minimum, but it’s much better than when we met. Her English was much better than my Korean when we met, but her speaking has improved as well. We used to communicate the best using Kakao Talk and face to face rather than over the phone.
2. Visit the other person’s country.
This gives you a chance to see how your partner lives and interacts right in their own culture. I had already been in Korea for a year and a half when we met, but it wasn’t until this year in January where she came to my hometown and met my family and friends. This also gives you a chance to see where they got some of their personality traits and quirks from. I was too happy when Hyo came to the states. It was too funny seeing her get hugged by everyone. She said she was hugged more in 2 weeks than she had been in her whole life haha (comic will be coming about that).
3. Travel together.
Traveling together can be fun and you can see how you guys mesh together over a longer period of time. Different problems seem to pop up when traveling, and it can be a chance for you guys to grow as you tackle them together. So far, we have been to Sokcho, Busan, and Mokpo in Korea. Hawaii, Detroit/West Virginia, and New York in the states. Hoping for Europe next year!
4. Learn to cook some of their culture’s food.
It’s fun. We love food. That is all.
5. Meet their family and friends.
This obvious with any relationship, but maybe even more so in relationships like these. The families and friends will always be curious about your new “main squeeze” and will be curious as to why you are dating someone from another culture. It also gives you a chance to see how they interact with people whom they have known all their lives. You can see another side to them which is fun 🙂
This is probably one of the most important as neither one of you may be fluent in the other’s language. If you guys have a problem, it may be best to just take some time to think so you can gather your thoughts and communicate them correctly. This is where learning the language comes in handy as well.
7. Respect their country’s cultural norms and differences.
Now I’m not saying you will understand or agree with everything about their country, but there is a way of going about it that is respectful and shows that you understand that things may be a little different than where you’re from. I once had a disrespectful attitude towards the Dokdo/Japan issue, and it really annoyed Hyo. It was my disrespectful nature and the way I said it more than what I said.
8. Go to another country where you guys are both tourists.
We are working on this, but this allows you to to see a new place together and feel the same experiences (kind of the same as #3, but a little different). Like I said above, we hope we can visit France next year, as well as Australia, maybe Japan, and who knows where else.
For those of you in similar situations, do you have any things that have helped you in your relationship?